Importance Of Changing Belief Systems
- Your belief systems influence your actions.
- These belief systems are created at an early age.
- By changing your belief systems, you can change your life!
In Part 1 I revealed how despite coming from unprivileged backgrounds, many individuals become extremely successful. This showed that success is a skill and can be learnt by anyone.
I also explored how one of the biggest barriers to success are belief systems, and that by changing these beliefs you can open up many new possibilities for you to explore.
What Are Belief Systems?
A belief is something that you regard to be true, or occur in a particular way. Belief systems act like filters in the brain, causing you to see the world in a specific way.
They edit your reality, and therefore influence your actions. So how do belief systems form? Well, although many factors can form belief systems, the 2 most important are your parents and your early school years.
Belief Systems From Parents       Â
When you enter the world you arrive with a blank slate. You have no preconceived ideas about the world, how it works, you have no “filters” and anything is possible.
However as a survival mechanism human beings are genetically programmed to mimic or model those around them, and as a result are extremely susceptible to external influences.
These influences first come in the form of our parents. As we grow older we learn from our parents what we can and can’t do, in short we adopt their belief systems, which in turn filter our reality and therefore how we view the world.
For example, are you an optimistic person or are you negative? Are you a calm person or do you have a temper? Compare your characteristics to those of your parents, and see how many belief systems they passed onto you.
Belief Systems From School
One common belief told to children is that if they don’t get good grades they won’t get a good job.
But as you saw in Part 1, this belief is false. There are many successful millionaires in the world, many of whom never even finished school.
However should a child finish school with poor grades and accept this limiting false belief, they are then likely to believe success is something they cannot achieve.
Their belief system simply does not allow for the possibility of success, and as a result they most likely will never achieve it.
Changing Belief Systems
Of course there are many, many other factors which influence our beliefs. These beliefs are usually formed at an early age and unless changed, stay with us for the rest of our lives.
The important point however is that whilst some beliefs may benefit us, many do not, and only serve to limit what you believe you can achieve.
But if you can change these belief systems, you will change what you think is possible, and ultimately what you can achieve.
Believe You Can Achieve It!                  Â
I firmly believe that anything is possible. You just have to know what to do, how to do it, then keep doing it until you succeed. If you want to become successful, it is necessary for you to believe you can become successful.
You first need to remove your limiting beliefs and replace them with ones that are congruent with what you would like to achieve.
But remember, believing something will not automatically make it happen. It merely opens the door of possibility. Your job is to walk through that door and make it a reality!
Coming Up In Part 3…
In part 1 I discussed how the actions of successful people are not constrained by a fear of failure, or concern for the approval of others.
They have high self esteem and a strong belief they will succeed. This is the key to success, and shall be explored further in Part 3.
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August 9th, 2007 at 11:39 am
good stuff
August 9th, 2007 at 3:44 pm
thanks Paul, I appreciate your support!
October 29th, 2007 at 3:38 am
I believe!
November 23rd, 2007 at 5:06 pm
i am 25 years old male, why am i so obsessed with
women. my mom tells me oh son love will find you, you don’t have to look for it. (what the **** does this mean, love will find you, is it like i will just go outside for a walk and a women will find me, what?)
life just sucks.
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> so many women on TV. and i want to have a women too.
its crazy
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> life is crazy isn’t it
November 23rd, 2007 at 5:15 pm
oh and i have schizophrenia (how do i deal with it), what does the medicine (risperdal or invega) for this disease do? i did a little research and found that my medicine contains the same chemicals as in ant venom.
i go to support groups for mental health here in texas. most of the people there are just weird, it seems like i have the most normal life than most of the people there. i work, exercise and do relaxation everyday.
oh one reason i go to the meetings is to meet, greet, see, shake hands with women. am i selfish or not. i treat women with respect.
i believe the most powerful drug to a man is a woman ( i.e. vagina, etc.). it’s worse that all the illegal drugs combine. its so powerful.
November 24th, 2007 at 9:08 am
Hi Deven,
The way the mind usually works is that if you can’t get something or you don’t have something, it is a natural reaction to want it more than if you already had it. This may explain your “obsession” with women.
But don’t worry, im sure many young men feel exactly the same way! This is partially due to hormones and a natural sexual instinct, but it is also partially due to the media.
Sex And The Media -
Sex sells and so beautiful women are frequently used in the media because of this. This makes men crave after women even more, whilst making women feel inadequate with themselves if they don’t have “model looks”.
Women -
I’m sure your mom means well, and in a way she is right. You will find a woman sooner or later, you just need to do a few things first. But in general, it’s usually not a good idea to take dating advice from your mom
There are 2 things you need to do in order to “get” a woman.
1) Learn how to attract a woman.
Women get together with a man because they are attracted to him. What many men fail to realise is that this attraction does not allways mean looks. There are many things that will attract a woman.
The best thing you can do, and the same applies for any other skill you wish to learn, is to learn from the experts. Have a look in the free ebook section on this site and download and read the 3 books on women. I will add another later which you should also read. Please read these, they will help you a lot.
2 ) Meet Women
Of course reading about women will only get you so far, you now need to apply what you have learnt in real life. Since you say you already meet women, you have an excellent chance to apply what you learn.
For most men meeting women is their biggest challenge, so if you are already doing this then i would say that if you read those books you have an excellent chance of getting together with a woman.
“life just sucks”
Avoid using negative language towards yourself. I know it’s hard if you have been doing it all your life. Read this article to help you
http://www.eruptingmind.com/talk-with-subconscious-mind/
and have a look at the articles on self esteem also, starting with this article
http://www.eruptingmind.com/self-esteem-love/
Just remember if you learn how to attract women and do the right things you will get a woman. However the more needy you appear to women, like you really want a date, the less attractive you will appear to them. But read those books and they will tell you alot more.
Schizophrenia -
In terms of schizophrenia, it’s very hard for me to give you specific advice without knowing more about things such as your lifestyle and diet.
However there is one theory on “mental illness” (i don’t like that term myself) that says there is no such thing as mental illness.
Rather it is the brains way of coping with certain aspects of a persons life. This is then labelled as an illness and a drug is perscribed for it.
For schizophrenia, some people believe it is the minds way of coping with a lack of stimulation and/or a lack of self worth.
For example, if you are very lonely, do not interact with people very much and do not feel very important or special then the mind tries to compensate for this.
schizophrenia usually occurs as hearing people talk about you, or comment on your activities. This may be the minds way of keeping itself stimulated, whilst at the same time making the person feel important because they hear other people talking about them. Like they are the focus of attention.
Evidence to support this theory comes from a reduction or elimination of symptoms people experience when their minds are actively engaged or working on something.
In other words if you find something very interesting and it gets your full attention, usually you don’t hear any voices. But if you are unstimulated, then you do hear voices.
However i am speaking in general terms, and it is difficult to talk specifically about your condition without knowing more about you.
Although you said that you believe “women are the most powerful drug” which seems to suggest that some of what I have said may be relevant to you.
Drugs -
I am not going to give you medical advice regarding drugs you are taking, that should come from the doctor who perscribed them to you.
You should allways be aware of exactly what you are taking and any side effects before you take drugs. All drugs have side effects.
My view is that drugs should be taken only as a last resort, as often they can cause many other complications that can make matters worse in the long term.
If you do decide to stop taking any drug, you should do so gradually over a prolonged period of time, as stopping immediately may cause you harm.
There is an excellent documentary which covers drugs and mental illness called Psychiatry: An Industry of Death, I highly recommend you try and get a hold of it. I do have a copy, and if i have time i will upload it for you.
Diet And Schizophrenia -
Other factors you may want to consider are diet. Diet plays a big role in health, and is something i recently wrote about. However in general avoid artifical processed foods, and eat a more natual diet.
Speaking specifically to schizophrenia, some people believe there is a strong link between grains and schizophrenia.
This means avoiding stuff like bread, or things made from flour like cookies, donoughts, pasta etc…
have a look at this article for more information
http://www.newtreatments.org/doc.php/WisdomExperience/145
and this for general advice
http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&q=grains+and+schizophrenia&btnG=Google+Search&meta=
Support Groups -
Deven, don’t let people put a label on you and feel that is how you must act. The mind is very complicated and there are many reasons why it may be acting a certain way.
It’s good that you go to support groups, and the fact that you feel normal is encouraging.
Many people who go to support groups may actually either consciously or subconsciously enjoy the comfort and support it gives them, this may actually reinforce their initial condition.
Do not under estimate the basic need to feel loved and important. This need can be filled in many different ways.
No you are not selfish to go to meetings to see women, thats a good thing, and something you should continue. Often when people feel they are being selfish it actually stems from a lack of self worth, or a feeling of inadequacy.
They believe they are not important or worthy enough to recieve something (either consciously or subconsciously). This may be something you may wish to examine further.
Overall you seem like a very normal person to me. You are not afraid to ask for help an seek action when needed. This is definitely a good thing, and shows you are proactive.
I think when you do get a woman, your outlook on life will seem a lot more positive.
January 20th, 2008 at 5:17 am
Psychiatry: An Industry of Death is a good video
i no longer take any medicine for schizophrenia and i feel the same.
lifting weights and walking a lot
thanks for the reply
i feel good, i eat a lot of Chinese food (too much).
peace
January 20th, 2008 at 5:19 am
i went to a energy healers meeting
too bad its only once a month
i am trying to find more support groups
any suggestions
tata
January 28th, 2008 at 1:10 pm
Hi Deven,
glad you enjoyed the film! Exercise and healthy eating are very important in maintaining good health, so i am pleased to see that is what you are doing. All things take time to improve and heal, so be persistant, and dont give up!
I don’t really know much about energy healing, so can’t really advise you upon that. However from what i have read, the body is essentially an energy field, and when this energy flow becomes blocked or disrupted then problems can occur.
There is a book on this subject called “the body electric” which you may be interested in. I will add it to the free ebook section later when i have the time.
January 28th, 2008 at 1:13 pm
I forgot to mention, you might want to be careful with Chinese food as it tends to contain a lot of msg. Also if you have schizophrenia you may want to avoid grains, and refined carbohydrates as some believe they may cause schizophrenia. I posted 2 links about this in a comment above.
January 28th, 2008 at 8:20 pm
i have stopped eating Chinese food.
i believe i do not have schizophrenia, i am great.
check out this site to know about schizophrenia
http://spiritualemergency.blogspot.com/
thanks
January 29th, 2008 at 5:03 pm
Martin, that’s an interesting article. I also wrote about replacing limiting beliefs with empowering ones. I thought you could be interested in reading my article.
January 31st, 2008 at 11:09 am
Hi Nadin,
Thank you for posting that article, I thought it was very well written.
I have decided to feature your site here
http://www.eruptingmind.com/promote-site/
January 31st, 2008 at 12:04 pm
I’m glad you liked the article Martin. Thanks so much for the review and feature! I return the favor by placing a link to your site on my blog. I’ll certainly do a review of your site pretty soon too.
Oh, by the way, my name is spelled Nadim, not Nadin
January 31st, 2008 at 12:37 pm
Your welcome Nadim!
If you ever want the link text changed just let me know.
Thanks for linking to my site also
Martin
February 13th, 2008 at 9:32 am
Deven,
I have added those books about the energy body which you may be interested in if you are going to energy healers.
You can find them here, no. 27
http://www.eruptingmind.com/free-ebooks-on-internet/
I did send you an email but got a message saying there was a delivery failure, so im not sure if you got the message or not.
Martin
July 13th, 2008 at 4:05 am
Thanks for the article.
I’m a male in my late 20’s, and feel I’m being held back by things that happened in my past. I was molested when I was 8. I have been carrying this my whole life and I don’t know how to get over it. I have a good job, Franchise Manager, for a successful company, but it feels like I’m being held back.
I know I can become more, but how?
Where do I start?
Its all a bit overwhelming.
It feels like lots of choices I made in my life were based on what happened to me, and now I have a lot of regrets. I stopped living. I don’t enjoy anything anymore. I only have my job. I live to work at this moment, not work to live.
Any advice?
July 13th, 2008 at 5:14 pm
Hi Vic,
I don’t think there is anything i can say that will make you forget the things that happened to you as a child. This would be something that would best be discussed with a trained psychologist, who has experience dealing with things like this.
However you may find the following articles on how childhood affects adult life useful. This is part 1 of 7 articles on this subject.
http://www.eruptingmind.com/affect-childhood-adult-life/
I can’t tell you how you get over what happened to you in your childhood, and i am not sure you ever do “get over it”. Rather you learn to accept what happened, and deal with it in a way that allows you to move forward in life.
There is someone i know who may be able to speak to you about this, but i would have to contact them first and ask if they would be willing to speak to you, as something similiar happened to them.
We all make choices in life based on what has happened to us in the past, and we all have regrets, so i think you are no different from any other person in that respect.
What has helped me throughout the years is to see everything as having meaning, both the good and bad. From these experiences we can either learn from them and use them to make us stronger, or we can ignore them and keep on the same path as we were before.
Overall i would say the most important thing is to focus on your future, rather than your childhood, or the mistakes you made in the past. However this is easier said than done.
One thing you can do to keep yourself focused on the future, and start moving your life forward in a new direction is to set yourself goals. Things you would like to achieve, or do. You have probably set yourself business goals, but have you set yourself personal goals?
If currently you are living to work, then it sounds like there is very little in your life outside of work? If this is the case, then you may consider working on things you can do outside of work that will make living more enjoyable.
What exactly do you find overwhelming? What is it you would like to do in life? How would you describe your feelings on a day to day basis?