The Meaning Of Self Reliance Explained & And Its Importance

• Self reliance gives you the freedom to be yourself.
• Dependency makes you a slave to other people.
• Learn to cut your strings, and stop being a puppet!

Self reliance is a strong belief that you are capable of successfully dealing with the challenges life throws at you, taking your guidance from yourself, rather than from other people or other things.

Put another way, self reliance means having the ability and courage to listen to yourself, and act by yourself, rather than letting other people, things or events decide what you should be, do or have.

A self reliant person therefore realises and accepts that they are completely responsible for their life, and that if they want something done, they must do it themselves.

When a person is able to “listen” to themselves and follow their own intuition, only then will they be able to trust themselves and steer their life in the direction they want it to go.

Dependency

If self reliance means a strong belief in your own ability to achieve success and happiness in life, then dependency is an absence of such belief.

A person who is dependant looks first to the people and things outside of them for guidance, rather than listening to and guiding themselves.

By doing so, a dependent person automatically gives control of their life to other people, things and events. As in the dependent persons mind, these external influences are to a large degree responsible for what they think, say and do.

The result of this dependency is an absence of self reliance, and therefore an absence of any ability to solve and overcome problems by themselves.

Lean On Me

One of the most obvious signs of dependency can be seen in people who continually look up to others, and see them as being superior and/or more powerful than they are.

In some cases, this dependency can become so deeply ingrained within a personality, that all personal power is given up in favor of another person.

When this occurs the dependent person will only feel secure by “clinging” onto that person. Seeing them as responsible for their happiness when things go well, and responsible for their failures when things go wrong.

Unfortunately, this puts the life of the dependant person at the mercy of those around them.

Because they do not believe in their own ability to solve and overcome a problem, and so will always instinctively look for someone who can provide them with the answer or solution they were looking for.

Perhaps you have seen this in other people, or yourself? Where a person automatically turns around to look for someone to help them, rather than first trying to figure it out for themselves.

This is a classic sign of dependency, and typical of a person who is forfeiting their personal power in favor of the “superior” people they are dependent upon.

We All Need A Little Help Sometimes

Getting help from other people is not necessarily a bad thing, as everyone needs a little help sometimes. The trouble is, some people become so dependant on receiving help from others, that they forget how to help themselves.

As a result of this dependency, the advice they get from others is often interpreted as a command, as something they must or must not do.

And unless this dependency is broken, the same pattern will continue throughout their entire life causing them to always seek and listen to others first, rather than listen to themselves.

In other words, the dependant person asks “who can help me?” instead of first asking “how can I help myself”?

Is It Really Good Advice Your Getting?

Depending on advice from others is only part of the problem, the real danger lies in the type of advice that is given, and your reaction to it.

Of course there will be times when people are able to offer you helpful advice, however more often than not, people are so wrapped up in their own problems they are unable to fully understand your unique situation.

As a result of this lack of understanding, the advice you get may not always be relevant to your situation, or in some cases, may be totally incorrect.

What do you think would happen if you lived your whole life listening to this kind of advice, rather than first trying to work things out by yourself?

Do You Want To Be A Puppet All Your Life?

Total dependency can only lead to total enslavement because it gives others the power to control your actions, just like a puppet’s actions are controlled by a puppeteer.

The only way the puppet can ever be free is by cutting the strings of dependency that support him, and learning to stand on his own two feet.

If you truly want to be free in your life and achieve the things you want to do, you must also cut the strings of dependency that are supporting you.

Because the only thing they are really doing, is holding you back and controlling your actions.