Communicating With Your Subconscious Using NLP 

In the last article you found out about the 3 NLP models, and decided upon your dominant thought processes. If you have not done this, I suggest reading NLP and the subconscious mind before continuing with this 6 step process.

The purpose of this 6 step process is to communicate with your subconscious, to identify and eliminate limiting subconscious beliefs, that may be stopping you from achieving your goals.

Step 1 - Identify The Pattern Or Behavior That You Would Like To Change

This can be anything that you would like to change about yourself. For example, losing weight and having a thin and attractive body.

Step 2 - Get A Signal From The Subconscious To Change The Pattern Or Behavior

Since most of our habitual behaviors and thoughts are controlled at the subconscious level, the next step is to communicate with your subconscious to change the pattern. To do this, you must be in a relaxed semi meditative state (ideally in an alpha state).

When you are relaxed, clear your mind, allowing it to go blank and free of thought. Now you must pose a question to the subconscious, which can only be answered as either “yes” or “no”.

The answer will not come to you in a word, but you will be able to understand it if you know what you are looking for, and if you know your dominant thought process.

This is were we apply the 3 thought processes you learnt about earlier. Some of the most common signals you receive from your subconscious, will be sent to you based on your strongest thought mode.

For example, if your predominant thought process is visual, then be aware of any images in your mind that appear in response to your question.

Are these images dark, light, big or small? You subconscious may change images, such as making them bigger and brighter, signaling yes, or darker and smaller signaling no. You may even seen a flashing “yes”!

Auditory people will most likely experience some kind of sound. So be aware of sounds in the background, or sounds originating from your body (i.e. stomach) in response to a question.

Louder sounds may indicate support for your question, whilst quieter sounds may signal there is some opposition to what you have asked.

Predominantly kinesthetic people tend to feel some form of physical sensation in their body. You might become aware of your fingers tingling, a sudden itch, an involuntary leg twitch or an increased heartbeat. You may also get a “gut” feeling in response to your question.

Generally the more intense the physical sensation, the greater support or agreement there is to the question you have posed.

However, please remember that these are just guidelines, and you may experience other signals in response to your questions.

You must also be aware that signals may come to you from your other thought processes. So if you are a predominantly visual person, you may also experience some kinesthetic or auditory signals.

As a result it may take several sessions to get used to and understand this process. It is also important that you are able to relax and clear your mind. If you have never meditated before, you may find it harder to still and quiet your mind.

Another thing that is quite common is that when you do receive a signal in response to your question, to become over excited and lose concentration. But again, this all comes with practice.

So throughout the process just stay aware to any signals that your subconscious wants to use, as you ask it for yes or no answers to your questions.

For example, if you wanted to lose weight, you might ask your subconscious if it supports your goal to lose weight.

Step 3 -  Discover Any Secondary Gains You Get From Not Achieving Your Goal

Often there may be a conscious desire for a person to be thinner and lose weight, but at the subconscious level there are “secondary gains” which override this initial desire.

For example, losing weight may mean attracting more attention from other people and having to deal with the pressures of dating.

In this case, by not losing weight the subconscious is protecting the person from pressures that they may associate with dating.

All of us have secondary gains for not being able to stay disciplined. Think of possible secondary gains that your undisciplined behavior may be bringing you, and then present the list in a yes or no format to your subconscious.

The answers you receive will help you to change your behavior. Be sensitive to the signals described in step 2 that you may receive as responses.

To get your subconscious to stop protecting you through these secondary behaviors, you need to acknowledge what it was doing, and thank it for that protection.

Then you need to ask if there are other ways to protect yourself from the perceived threat, besides the undesired behavior. Use yes or no questions to learn these alternatives.

For example, ask if you can protect yourself from dating by choosing not to date for a certain period of time.

Step 4 - Create A New Behavior More Aligned With Your Self Disciplined Goals

If a person wants to lose weight, but finds in the subconscious a secondary gain that prevents them from doing it. A solution would be to eat less in general, but also to change the amount of weight lost to a lower amount.

This way the behavior still changes, and the persons goals are still met. But most importantly, it gives the subconscious time to adjust to the new goal and behavior, supporting it more readily in the future.

Often goals that are seen as outrageous and unrealistic by the subconscious are ignored, and therefore experience the most resistance when trying to achieve them.

It is far better to set yourself a big goal, but to do so in a series of progressive smaller goals. This will increase acceptance and support by the subconscious.

If you are unsure what new behaviors to create that will support your goal, ask your subconscious to create 3 new behaviors, that it will support.

Be aware of any ideas that “pop” into your mind, then clarify them with the subconscious using yes / no questions to see if they are seen as acceptable.

Step 5 - Determine Whether Your New Behaviors Are Aligned With The Subconscious

Are your goals what you really want, both consciously and subconsciously? If they are not there will be resistance, and you will not achieve them.

If you previously found new ways to lose weight and keep it off, ask the subconscious to generate these behaviors automatically when they are needed, protecting you from being overweight.

Step 6 -  Determine Whether The New Behavior Fits In With Who You Are Without Inner Conflict

Ask the subconscious whether your new goals are acceptable to it. Check to see if there are any additional blocks or secondary gains to your new goals. If there are, repeat the 6 step process for those blocks.

Whilst this method may take some practice and time to master, it is more than worth the effort. Often secondary gains stop people from achieving what they consciously want in life, leaving them feeling helpless and powerless.

By removing these subconscious blocks, you will regain a lot more power in your life, and finally start to achieve the things you have been longing to do.

If you need help relaxing, and have not meditated before, have a look at the free stuff section and pick one of the mediation software’s to use as you do this process.

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